This post will be Quiet different this time. No food involved, just some inspiring words. I just finished reading an incredible book called Quiet by Susan Cain. For anyone of you trying to battle whether your’e an introvert or an extrovert, this book is for you. I was so inspired by Susan Cain’s work that I had to share this blueprint that she left us with towards the end.
Hope you enjoy this read.
Love is essential: gregariousness is optional. Cherish your nearest and dearest. Work with colleagues you respect. Scan new acquaintances for those who might fall into the former categories or whose company you enjoy for its own sake. And don’t worry about socializing with everyone else. Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality over quantity.
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some it’s a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers-of persistence, concentration, insight, and sensitivity-to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems,make art, think deeply.
Figure out what you are meant to contribute to this world and make sure you contribute it. If this requires public speaking or networking or other activities that make you uncomfortable, do them anyway But accept that they’re difficult, get the training you need to make them easier, and reward yourself when your’e done.
Quit your job as a TV anchor and get a degree in library science. But if TV anchoring is what you love, then create an extroverted persona to get yourself through the day. Here’s a rule of thumb for networking events; one new honest-go-to-goodness relationship is worth ten fistfuls of business cards. Rush home afterward and kick back on your sofa. Carve our restorative niches.
Respect your loved one’s need for socializing and your own for solitude. Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think your’e supposed to. Stay home on New Years Eve if thats what makes you happy. Skip the committee meeting. Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances. Read.Cook.Run. Write a story. Make a deal with yourself that you’ll attend a set number of social events in exchange for not feeling guilty when you beg off.
Whoever you are, bear in mind that appearance is not reality. Some people act like extroverts, but the efforts costs them energy, authenticity, and even physical health. Others seem aloof or contained, but their inner landscapes are rich and full of drama. So the next time you see a person with a composed face and a soft voice, remember that inside her mind she might be solving an equation, composing a sonnet, designing a hat. She might, that is, be deploying the powers of quiet.
We know from myths and fairy tales that there are many different kinds of powers in the world. One child is given a light saber, another a wizard’s education. The trick is not to amass all the different kinds of available peer, but to use well the kind you’ve been granted. Introverts are offered keys to private gardens full of riches. To possess such a key is to tumble like Alice down her rabbit hole. She didn’t choose to go to Wonderland- but she made it an adventure that was fresh and fantastic and very much her own.
An inspirational read that will change the way you see yourself, it will change the way you look at introverts and extroverts. If you are a quiet person, it will make you see yourself in a whole new light.